Tuesday, May 10, 2016

Joan Casey Update #18: Photos from Mt Tamalpais 1998

Joan on Mt Tam 1998
Mount Tamalpais in Marin County is a very popular hiking destination, especially in the Bay Area.
There are good reasons for this; it's close to SF and the Golden Gate Bridge; there a variety of trails traversing several types of terrain; there are world-class views! At the summit -a little over 2500 feet- one can see panoramic views of San Francisco & beyond, East Bay cities and skyline, the Bay itself; the GG Bridge & surrounds, Point Reyes National Seashore, and the Pacific Ocean. Trails range from coastal, to steep, to ridge lines, to wooded areas, to creeks with waterfalls. It is a uniquely beautiful area, and it hosts many hikes every day of the week. No wonder it is so popular!
John & Joan on Mt Tam 1998
This day, we took good friends from east of Sacramento up to explore a few trails and views, despite the blustery weather. One of Joan's oldest friends, Maryanne Beckford, with whom she came to California in 1965 - that's right - and her husband Joe with us to see what we could see, which was plenty!
Joe Beckford & Joan on Mt Tam 1998
Joan posed with Joe, while Maryanne took the picture. Both Maryanne and Joe came to our wedding in 1990. Those were happy days! Unfortunately, Joe had passed away about a week before Joan did, in April 2016. Maryanne didn't want to tell us while Joan was in the hospital, which was a good thing. Maryanne will attend Joan's Memorial Service at the Sausalito Presbyterian Church on Saturday, May 21 at 1 PM. Bless her, she will say a few words...
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Monday, May 9, 2016

Joan Casey Update #17: Happenings You Might Like To Hear About

Our Wedding @ Sausalito Presbyterian Church - June 17, 1990
• Hey Deebit, remember this day?
I just had our wedding video digitized so I could watch it again on my computer.
Guess what? It was even more of a happy event than I recalled!
Maybe, I can get it edited enough to show the highlights on May 21!
You were absolutely stunningly radiant - something I have remembered, as have many others who were there...

• Another interesting development is that the US Corps of Engineers have now officially denied a permit to SSA-Marine for the huge Coal Terminal proposed for Cherry Point!
The reason given was that the expected additional negative impacts to tribal fishing rights violated the Treaty of 1855.
Remember the day we went to the Lummi event at which they burned a big check in effigy? 
It must have worked! Now, maybe a realistic use can be found for this site.
What? You want to buy it for a memorial park? Maybe, a buyer can be found who will protect this fragile shore area....

• Also, remember when you had doubts about the weather here? One of the things that helped ease that anxiety was when you first drove past the Mt Baker Winery and Vineyards - that convinced you that if grapes could be grown here, the weather mustn't be so bad!
Well, today, that winery is for sale - is that a harbinger of worse weather? I don't think so, but you never know...

• Regina came for a third day to gather, sort and list your clothes; still not finished. Hate to remind you, but you had WAY too many clothes!
Don't worry they're going to a place where they'll be put to good use - the Assistance League. I know you'll approve...

• The Memorial Service in Yonkers is coming up next Saturday. I'll be flying into Newark where son Tom will meet me for the trip to Yonkers and back.
We'll stay with Kathy Casey, your brother's widow, whose been very helpful in the arrangements. Brian is coming and bringing your Cousin, Jeanne.
Your friend Patsy will be there, too. We plan an Irish meal at Rory's after the Memorial.

• Your Cousin, Jed, sent me a great poem that will be included in the Sausalito Memorial the following Saturday.
Bud & Juanita will be coming and stay at Surrey Street with me.
The Brothers K will be cooking a 'weapon' the day I arrive.
Rev George is going to officiate at SPC and has been a terrific help, along with your friends Mimi and Georgianne.
And, the Dzogchen Community has been invited, along with your friend Nora.
No idea how many may come, but a bunch!
I picked a lot of songs and music, but expect the main ones will be One Hand, One Heart - sung at our wedding - and the Song of the Vajra, also chanted at our wedding...
Joan & Cousin Jed, the Mountaineer
• Here's the Poem Jed sent, especially with you in mind!

Here in Kathmandu 
by Donald Justice

We have climbed the mountain.
There's nothing more to do.
It is terrible to come down
To the valley
Where, amidst many flowers,
One thinks of snow,

As formerly, amidst snow,
Climbing the mountain,
One thought of flowers,
Tremulous, ruddy with dew,
In the valley.
One caught their scent coming down.

It is difficult to adjust, once down,
To the absence of snow.
Clear days, from the valley,
One looks up at the mountain.
What else is there to do?
Prayer wheels, flowers!

Let the flowers
Fade, the prayer wheels run down.
What have they to do
With us who have stood atop the snow
Atop the mountain,
Flags seen from the valley?

It might be possible to live in the valley,
To bury oneself among flowers,
If one could forget the mountain,
However, once looking down,
Stiff, blinded with snow,
One knew what to do.

Meanwhile it is not easy here in Kathmandu,
Especially when to the valley
That wind which means snow
Elsewhere, but here means flowers,
Comes down,

As soon it must, from the mountain.
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Goodnight...

Saturday, May 7, 2016

Joan Casey Update #16: Obituary

Joan Casey - Beaming Radiant Dee-ness!
Joan Kathryn Casey - Born 05/16/1941 in Mount Vernon, NY to her parents, Paul E Casey & Eleanor Hunter Casey, she took her last breath on 04/12/2016 in Redding, CA with her husband, John and her Vajra Sister, Nora McKay, at her side.

Joan’s death was peaceful, resulting from respiratory failure and other complications while at Shasta Regional Medical Center in Redding, CA

She is survived by her husband & life companion for over 32 years, John Watts of Bellingham, WA, her Step-son, Tom Watts of Charlotte, NC, and her Sister-in-law, Kathy Casey of Yonkers, NY

Joan valued the higher meanings in life, and having viewed Catholic, Presbyterian and Buddhist perspectives, she saw commonalities rather than differences. 

Joan was a devout Buddhist, first introduced to Buddhism by Chogyal Namkhai Norbu Rinpoche, leader of the Dzogchen Community, in the Vajrayana tradition. She passed away while surrounded by precious Buddhist prayers, artifacts and friends, which greatly eased her transition from life toward rebirth. She valued meditation as a skillful means to discover Buddha, Dharma and Sangha, and to practice with translating Body, Speech & Mind into action.

Joan dearly loved Nature, in all its aspects; Mountains, Forests, Fields, Streams, Ocean, and especially, Birds of the Sky. She freely supported causes dedicated to conservation and preservation of the natural world.

She strongly supported the cause of Social Justice and helped people through giving to various charities, as well as issues including Water Supply protection and Public Parks.

Joan was a believer in World Peace, and often participated in the political process to make her values known. She also gave tangible assistance to worthwhile organizations to help people of Tibetan culture.

The people Joan loved most were her family and friends, which were many, because she made friends easily and often. She was a member of a number of circles, both formal and informal, which discussed and advocated good will. Her extended family included in-laws, outlaws and special persons, including a large Russian immigrant family she loved.

Music was important to Joan and she loved opera, theater, and meditative music best.

Joan lived for adventure and having memorable experiences! Outdoors, she enjoyed hiking the best, followed by van camping, backpacking, kayaking and cross-country skiing. She was a Taurus Earth Mother and liked being that! She was a member of Sierra Club, CA AlpineClub, Mountaineers, Audubon Society, Nature Conservancy, Whatcom Land Trust, WAKE, Nooksack Nordics, Mt Baker Hiking Club and others.

She was an avid traveler, constantly seeking new places to visit and explore. Her travels extended through Southeast Asia, Nepal, India, Europe, Scotland, Ireland, Central America, Caribbean, Alaska, Hawaii, Canada, Russia.

Joan was naturally smart, but continued to love learning and read prolifically on religious themes, popular books, NYT Editorials, New Yorker, health, and food. All-Life-Learning was a frequent pursuit, in particular the Fromm Institute at the University of San Francisco.

Joan was a Feminist, and cared about the special roles that women play, and their growing roles into the modern day and beyond. She was strongly independent in her thinking, and comfortable in her own skin, but also valued the opinions of others. As a single woman for 49 years, she excelled at computer programming, using intense focus and intuitive skills to determine solutions to problems. She and two friends made their way to the San Francisco Bay Area in 1965, where she made it her home until moving to Bellingham, WA in 1990, the year she married for the first time. She was proud of the fact that she was able to secure a loan in 1978 for the purchase of a small Victorian house in the Glen Park Neighborhood of San Francisco, a place she made a Home, and continued to own and remodel until her death. She loved all her neighborhoods and frequently was involved in gatherings - her specialty!

Joan enjoyed ‘pinking and fluffing’ in a hot shower every day, and was the willing recipient of many nicknames assigned by her husband. Most of these contained reference to the word ‘Dee’, as in ‘Bird-a Dee’ and the like. Her look of love she called ‘Beaming Radiant Dee-ness’!

Joan loved Food! She cooked, endlessly reviewed recipes, and ate with gusto - whether at home, dining out, or with groups of friends. But, she had to be careful with food because of a severe allergy to peanuts and tree nuts in general. 

Joan had a bit of a clothes fetish, enjoying the search for comfortable, yet classy looks. Most of the time she wore outdoor wear, like hiking shorts, T-shirts, fanny pack, rain gear and the like. But, she ‘cleaned up’ nicely - as the Irish say - and felt at ease in almost any setting. In short, she was a ‘Class Act’!

She became an Apple nut, when introduced to iMac, PowerMac, iPad and iPhone. Though opting not to become a ‘techie’, she enjoyed using these electronic tools as a means of keeping up with news, contacting her friends and generally having a good time on the Amazon site and other Internet venues.

Joan seemed to have boundless energy, even when challenged by various physical ailments. Nothing seemed to slow her down for very long, although she also liked relaxation, too - when she had time for it. 


But, the main memory of Joan has to be her innate honesty, strength of character, clean-cut features, her outspokenness, bright smile and absolute love of laughter and joy. What a wonderful, loving spirit she was! A lasting legacy for such a beautiful human being can only be inadequately described….


Friday, May 6, 2016

Joan Casey Update #15: Bellingham Unitarian Fellowship Memorial Service

Joan Casey
Today, plans have been firmed up for Joan's Memorial Service at the Bellingham Unitarian Fellowship.
It will be held in the Fellowship Hall at 1207 Ellsworth, in Bellingham on Saturday, June 4 at 2 PM. Reverend Paul Beckel will officiate. Details follow later.
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Thursday, May 5, 2016

Joan Casey Update #14: Our Wedding

Missus Joan - smiling as usual!
Today has been a day of recuperation for me. I am now finally feeling a little exhaustion, physically, mentally and emotionally, but I'll get over it - because I must.
Joan would want me to stay strong and focussed, and I am going to do that - for her, and myself.
As Winston Churchill used to say "I'll be better in the morning"!

So, instead of stalling out, I'm going to enjoy some very pleasant memories - of which there have been many with Missus Joan!
She once told me that her life was never dull; and when it headed that way, she would do something to get it back on track.
That has been a lasting impression of my dear wife that I have consistently enjoyed with her.
By mutual consent, we have collected 'experiences', and what a collection we have accumulated!

So, going back to the time when I had known Joan just over 6 years - I am posting our printed 7-page wedding program. I've also located the 45-minute long video tape made, now being digitized.

That day - June 17, 1990 - was the happiest complete day that I had ever witnessed with Joan; her photogenic cheeks actually ached from the continuous smiles and laughter!
She was definitely in her natural element and everyone knew it.

Pictures will come later, but here is the 7-page program:
Page 1 of 7

Page 2 of 7
Page 3 of 7

Page 4 of 7

Page 5 of 7


Page 6 of 7
Page 7 of 7
That's it for now. Good night, Missus Joan......
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I adopted the theory of reincarnation when I was twenty-six. Religion offered nothing to the point. Even work could not give me complete satisfaction. Work is futile if we cannot utilize the experience we collect in one life in the next. When I discovered reincarnation . . . time was no longer limited. I was no longer a slave to the hands of the clock. . . . I would like to communicate to others the calmness that the long view of life gives to us. HENRY FORD

Wednesday, May 4, 2016

Joan Casey Update #13: Red Cedar Zen Memorial

Program for Memorial Service May 4, 2016
A wonderful meditative service for Joan was held tonight at the Red Cedar Zen Dharma Hall.
Her friends from the Mountaineers were especially prevalent, as well as practicing members from the Zen Center, her neighborhood, wine-tasting group and progressive political circle. 
In many cases, these categories overlap considerably! 

This was a special honor for Joan - and to her memory for the good works for which she has always been known. 
She had specifically requested this particular memorial service as one of her last wishes. 
I know that it will greatly help in her journey toward a well-favored rebirth! 
Bless her kind spirit....
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Tuesday, May 3, 2016

Joan Casey Update #12: SPC Information

Sausalito Presbyterian Church

This is a photo of SPC, where Joan's Memorial Service will be held on May 21 at 1pm.
Their website is at this URL, where much more information is available, including directions and parking locations for those visiting for the first time.
Rev George McLaird
George performed the marriage ceremony for Joan and me on June 17, 1990 at SPC.
It was a very special event that lasted 45 minutes, and was graciously filmed for us.
The Song of the Vajra sung during this Wedding Ceremony is reproduced here:

Now, George will also perform Joan's Memorial Service. He asks that those wishing to speak follow  the Guidelines shown below:
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Sunday, May 1, 2016

Joan Casey #11: San Francisco- Glen Park Neighborhood Gathering

Joan's Neighbors in Glen Park, San Francisco - A Special Remembrance!

Two very short videos; Joan serving wine & kids playing on floor at Christmas 2014

Many thanks to Joan's neighborhood friends for holding this celebration of her life! Although we had moved away in 1990, she remained connected with her neighbors and looked forward to seeing them every time we visited SF. 

Although, we rented her home for many years, the last 3+ years were spent in supervising the restoring, repairing, remodeling and expanding living space in her prized 100+ little Victorian House on Surrey Street. 

I called it her 'little old lady' house, because she held onto it with tenacity as a treasured residence, filled with memories, joy and light. And, she had proudly bought it in 1978, with a rare loan for a single woman, which she delighted in paying off!

Always wiser than me in valuing things, Joan's vision was again proved when after she had found a builder she trusted and very much liked, she proceeded to define her dreams one at a time, until actually realizing them as having come true! Bravo! Missus Joan! The result is a home anyone would like to live in, including Joan. 

And, although Bellingham had long ago become her/our main home and community, she loved the idea of having a SF nest to visit, entertain guests and serve as a comfortable home away from home for extended periods. This wish had come true, before she left SF for the last time.....
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After much consultation and thought, I've selected the following music for Joan’s memorial service at the Sausalito Presbyterian Church on May 21 at 1 PM:

1. One Hand, One Heart - from West Side Story - [Original Cast]
[sung at our wedding by Lynn Stradley

2. Song of the Vajra - a Buddhist chant created and sung by her Teacher, Chogyal Namkhai Norbu

3. Ode to Joy - Beethoven

4. Canon in D - Pachebel

5. Dona Nobis Pacem - YouTube Botticelli/Brigham

6. Sheep Safely Graze - Bach 

7 Ave Maria - Schubert YouTube The Priests

8. GrandCanyon Suite - Ferde Grofe (instrumental)

9. Dance of the Blessed Spirits - Gluck

10. "On Eagle's Wings" - YouTube [Josh Groban Lyrics]

11. "The Soft Goodbye" - YouTube [Celtic Woman]

12. Sound of Music - YouTube  [Julie Andrews]

13 True Love - YouTube [Bing Crosby, Grace Kelly]

14. You’ll Never Walk Alone - YouTube Susan Boyle

15. Amazing Grace - YouTube -Elvis Presley 

16. Wind Beneath My Wings - I have Willie Nelson

17. Everlasting Road - Kitaro I have Album

18. Farewell - John Doan [Instrumental] I Have Album - Eire:Isle of the Saints
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Now, I'm told to pick ONE of these as the theme during Memorial Service, with rest to be played either before or afterwards. 
That would have to be No. 2, I think.

Friday, April 29, 2016

Joan Casey #10

A Yantra Yoga Technique combining Movement & Sound
The Buddhist practice known as Dzogchen is briefly described here. It was -and is- the path chosen by Joan to lead her path toward enlightenment. 
It is not a strange tradition, but one I find to be all-inclusive and very helpful, since it encourages meditation and honest self-reflection, not a mere reliance upon icons and mysterious hocus-pocus. 

A tradition dating back to the 8th Century - and likely before - these teachings rely upon a scrupulous passing of knowledge from teacher to teacher, thus valuing lineages highly.  
This type of 'quality control', as I call it, provides an insurance against corruption over time. Buddhism hasn't relied upon evangelism, as we know it, but it's inherent truths and integrity in preserving the basic essence of the enduring teachings.
 
This, itself, is an attraction to me, as it was to Joan - a serious seeker for the purpose and meaning of life, and beyond. She sought her Dharma path in earnest, and found it in supporting preservation of nature, social justice and peace. I greatly admire her in that! 
Few can equal Joan's aspirations for good, or act on it as consistently or generously.
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Things are happening more quickly now, so I am posting another Update to benefit those who may be planning to visit one of Joan's Memorial Services:

The Sausalito Presbyterian Church website is useful for those wanting directions, and finding parking, which is sometimes difficult. Just click on the Staff/Contact Tab to access this information.

The Flynn Memorial Home website is also helpful. Click on search button after entering "Casey" to find pictures, tributes, etc, plus directions.

Some additional music I'm considering includes:

10. "On Eagle's Wings" - YouTube [Josh Groban Lyrics]

11. "The Soft Goodbye" - YouTube [Celtic Woman]

12. Sound of Music - YouTube  [Julie Andrews]

13 True Love - YouTube [Bing Crosby, Grace Kelly]
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More later................

Thursday, April 28, 2016

Joan Casey Update #9

Here are a few photos of Joan that show the progression from clown to marriage!
Joan in early Critter outfit

Joan has evolved into Lily, with Father's tuxedo!

Joan (Lily) & John (Big Red)
Joan (Lily) with Rusty, her Matron of Honor-to-be
Joan meets Corpulent Critter in her Dining Room
Joan & John got married June 17,1990!
After much consultation and thought, I've selected the following music for her memorial service at the Sausalito Presbyterian Church on May 21 at 1 PM:

1. One hand, one heart - from West Side Story, sung at our wedding by Lynn Stradley

2. Song of the Vajra - a Buddhist song by her Guru, Namkhai Norbu

3. Ode to Joy - Beethoven

4. Canon in D - Pachebel

5. Dona Nobis Pacem - Botticelli/Brigham

6. Bach - Sheep Safely Graze

7 Schubert - Ave Maria - The Priests

8. GrandCanyon Suite - Ferde Grofe (instrumental)

9. Gluck - Dance of the Blessed Spirits

More later........

Sunday, April 24, 2016

Joan Casey Update #8

Ah is the symbol of the primal state of the spirit. It is the female aspect, the mother fully expressed in divine wisdom. It is also the unborn, a state of being that is without thought. It is the essential state of Emptiness.


Here are more pertinent URLs:


http://bellingham.shambhala.org - This group held the Memorial Service for Joan on April 19. Many thanks to them for providing an opportunity for friends of Joan to attend!

http://www.redcedarzen.org - This group will hold a Memorial Service for Joan on May 4 at 8 PM in the Red Cedar Zen Dharma Hall, 1021 North Forest St., Bellingham. Many thanks to them for providing another opportunity for friends of Joan to attend!

http://chagdudgonpa.org - This group has held prayers for Joan from the moment of her passing; these are continuing until 49 days have passed - until May 31. Many thanks for these prayers, from a Buddhist Center close to Redding, CA.

http://www.siddharthasintent.org - This group is holding prayers for Joan, who attended several retreats and meetings with them, as did I. Many thanks to them for their prayers for Joan's well-favored rebirth! At one session, I was asked to read text to an audience of 400 - nervous! Rinpoche liked my accent, calling me "cowboy". Afterwards, I received a special name from him, that of "Windhorse", which later I found meant high praise. Additional explanations of Windhorse appear below:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wind_Horse - Standard stuff. from Mr Google.


http://www.rigpawiki.org/index.php?title=Lungta - A more in-depth explanation.

http://www.windhorsetibet.com  - A commercial site, but with beautiful pictures!

prayer flags - More pretty pictures.

http://www.nalandawest.org - A Buddhist Group in Seattle who are also saying prayers for Joan.

Saturday, April 23, 2016

Joan Casey Update #7

One change to the Memorial Service planned for Saturday, May 21 at the Sausalito Presbyterian Church is it now will begin at 1 PM.
 [not 2 PM as initially set]
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Here are several pictures, plus URLs useful for those following this series of blogs about Joan


Sunset from our deck
Our Cabin retreat in Winthrop, WA
John with Irish Lass,
Dingle, County Kerry, Ireland
Our Eurovan home away from home
Joan & Giddy Gato

Joan at favorite activity
https://www.cob.org - This City of Bellingham website has great views of Mt Baker and landscapes surrounding our home & explains why Joan loved living here. 

http://sausalitopres.org - This church is where Joan & I were married on June 17, 1990, by Rev George McLaird, who will also officiate her Memorial Service.

http://flynnmemorialhome.com - This is the place where a short Memorial for Joan will be held on Saturday, May 14 at 2 PM, enabling her relatives and childhood friends to easily attend.

http://grayrockmemorialsandflorist.com - This firm will inter Joan's cremains in the Casey burial plot at Gate of Heaven Cemetery in Valhalla, NY. They will engrave her name on the family headstone, underneath her parents' name.

http://dzogchencommunitywest.org - Joan considered this Buddhist Dzogchen Community as her primary Sangha, although she attended many. Her Teacher, Chogyal Namkhai Norbu, inspired her greatly. Donations in Joan's memory are welcome.

http://usa.rigpa.org - Joan took me to a RIGPA meeting, where its founder, Sogyal Rinpoche, first introduced Buddhist Dharma teachings to me, also inspiring me to meditate.

http://www.dakinipower.com/tsultrim-allione/ - Joan met Tsultrim Allione, the female founder of Tara Mandala, and was inspired to learn that women make really good Buddhists.  

http://www.rorydolans.com - A restaurant in Yonkers, NY, traditionally used by the Casey family.

http://bellinghamstertalk.blogspot.com - This Blog's main URL to directly access these updates.

http://www.shastaregional.com - This was the hospital where Joan spent the last 3 weeks of her life. Donations can be made to this facility to benefit the Kiwanis Family House, where Critical Care Patients and/or their family members can stay across the street from the hospital for a very reasonable fee.

http://www.uwmedicine.org/uw-medical-center - This is where Joan went for help with her respiratory disease for which there is no known cure. Donations welcomed to The Interstitial Lung Disease Clinic at UWMC which provides consultation and management of interstitial lung disease, including pulmonary fibrosis, sarcoidosis and related diseases. University of Washington Medical Center, 1959 NE Pacific St., Seattle, WA 98195

Joan's trusted medical advisor isGanesh Raghu, MD, Professor of Medicine and Laboratory medicine(adjunct), Medicine; NN 429B UW medical center; Dir.Center for Interstitial Lung Dis.& Co-Dir.Scleroderma Cl, Laboratory Medicine; 3rd Floor UW Medical Center
206 598-6190, 206 340-5745; Box 356175; FAX: 206 598-2105;
graghu@uw.edu, graghu@u.washington.edu

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